What is available to a person who wants to improve their intimacy and sex these days?
· Books
· Videos
· Couple’s Therapy
· Somatic Practices (e.g., working with professional cuddlers, Tantric masseuses, surrogate partners, and various types of sex workers)
That is great, and….
️ There is very little available for couples who want to go beyond talking/listening/watching, without being physically or emotionally involved with anyone but their partner.
In other words, if you are not open to going to cuddle parties, sex clubs, Tantra festivals, clothes-optional workshops, etc., it might seem that your resources are limited to therapy and self-education.
Yet most of us know that sustainable change in our body-mind-spirit is only possible through repeated real-life experiences.
In other words, if you’re feeling anxious about intimacy or sex, no amount of reading or talking will probably make a difference for you!
That is both good and bad news.
The good one - with enough commitment, we can change, learn, and grow in all areas of our lives, including sex. You can ALWAYS become a better lover!
The bad one - if both you and your partner are lacking the essential skills in intimacy and sex, it can be very difficult to get out of the circle of confusion and disappointment …
Traditional talk therapy often falls short here because:
· Most therapists cannot offer or teach hands-on practices.
· Sessions are typically limited to one hour, making deep transformation difficult.
On the other hand, somatic practitioners come with their own challenges:
· Their services might not align with your relationship agreements.
· Access can be difficult or legally restricted, depending on where you live.
· Practices like Tantric massage and professional cuddling are widely accepted in Europe but exist in a gray area in much of the U.S.
So, what can we do if we are in a committed relationship, and both of us are missing the essential skills?
Here is another good news.
Holistic Intimacy Coaching can offer a much-needed bridge for couples to learn the essential sex and intimacy skills in the safe container of an exclusive relationship.
It provides both safety and exploration. Knowledge, and experience. Space for all the emotions, and all the feelings. It is truly an excellent training wheel for those who are willing to get trained.
Have you watch “Sex, Love and Goop” on Netflix? This was the first documentary showing different intimacy coaches and their unique approaches.
Not all yoga styles and not every teacher will be right for you.
Do you want a more mellow style, or do you like it hot? Do you need more explanations, or prefer more silence and space?
Here is how my Holistic Intimacy Coaching Style coming from a Tantric perspective looks like.
1. Guided Communication Practices
Imagine sitting across from your partner, holding hands, synchronizing your breath, and feeling truly present together before speaking a word. I guide you through step-by-step conversations to help navigate emotions and vulnerability while deepening your connection.
2. Guided Touch Practices
Using a massage table, floor, or couch, I guide you through a variety of touch techniques—from subtle energetic touch to deep grounding embraces—to create different emotional and physical responses. Most of us never had a space, or vocabulary to explore those powerful ways to connect! In our sessions, everything is clothes-on, however you’re encouraged to explore further in the privacy of your home.
3. In-Depth Sex Education
Tailored to your unique situation, I provide insights through conversation, visual demonstrations (using models and images), reflections on your home assignments, and recommended books and videos.
4. Coaching Containers: From Three Days to 3-9 Months
I am a believer that having a clear beginning and end allows for deeper transformation. It creates clarity, intentionality, and safety to go as deep as we need.
Three-Day Immersions FIND YOUR BLISS
A luxurious, distraction-free experience for immediate transformation. This is the only format where you can learn Tantric healing massage. Many have experienced life-changing breakthroughs in these sessions.
3-9 Month Programs BUILD YOUR INTIMACY SKILLS
Ideal for ongoing support and bi-weekly assignments – in-person or via Zoom. Whether following an immersion or starting fresh, this format can provide steady progress and lasting results.
5. Tantric Healing
One of the most powerful tools couples can learn is Tantric massage—a deeply healing and connecting practice that can become a lifelong ritual. Sacred Spot Massage, introduced by Charles and Caroline Muir in the 1980s, is a profound method to clear emotional baggage and open the way for deeper pleasure and connection.
Would you like to learn more?
Let's connect!
Schedule your one-on-one Discovery Call, or join one of my upcoming events to start your journey toward deeper intimacy and connection!
Warmly,
Zhanna.
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